SADIE ROSE CASEY
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Young. Single. Mom.

 

Here's the thing. I was a young mom. And for most of the time, I've been a single mom.

These 2 truths have shaped everything for me, including:

  • How I manage my time

  • How I decide what's a priority to me

  • How I set boundaries, and with whom

  • What I value

  • What I want to invest my energy in

  • Who I want to spend my time with

Now, at 37, I'm still a single mom. Oh don't get me wrong—I've had plenty of help (and I've written about it, here). But yep, still a single mom. I make all the important decisions and I make all the damn money.

And I still decide every day what's important for me and my small family unit.

Over the years, I actually created such a sturdy culture of saying No and prioritizing rest, that now my entire home and life has extra padding for this slowness that is so important to me. I fought hard for it, it's not always easy to come by. And as an entrepreneur, I've had flexibility where others often don't.

It's important for me to look back and remember where I started.

When you're a young single mother, some people turn away from you. Even if they don't mean to, and even if it's a modern era and that kind of shit shouldn’t happen anymore.

It freaks them out. It freaks married people out and it freaks childless people out and it freaks people out who judge you or judge themselves or who are afraid of what you trigger in them. (Of course, it doesn't freak everyone out, and this, this, is how you find your people).

People doubt young single mothers and they also fear them. I have always loved being feared in some ways because it gives me power. That's just the truth about fear. Fear gives someone power. So remember that next time you're afraid of someone.

You can always take your power back by learning to be less afraid.

Being a young single mother shaped the work that I do and the way that I do it. It has shaped my passions and the things I care about, and how I want to help people.

Wonder where I'm going with all of this? Well, in the next installment, I'll talk about my work. But today, this is my story.

And in review, look at these bullet points again—do you know the answers for yourself?

  • How I manage my time

  • How I decide what's a priority to me

  • How I set boundaries, and with whom

  • What I value

  • What I want to invest my energy in

  • Who I want to spend my time with

Love,
Sadie Rose


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